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Alex just turned three months old
yesterday. Both Julie and I are completely attached to
him. His eyesight has changed in the last couple of
weeks. He now recognizes both of us from across the room
and follows us with his eyes. When we walk into a room
and he recognizes either one of us, he gets the biggest
smile. Its one of those smiles that starts in his
eyes and spreads across his whole face. When hes
really happy to see us, he makes a little cooing noise.
It melts your heart and you think how could life be so
wonderful. Its probably just some protective
biological thing, but Alexs smile affects Julie and
me in a way nothing else does. We spend hours trying to
get him to smile and each one is new, just like the first
one. He's also working really hard on rolling over. He
can do this on the bed, but nowhere else yet. The first three months living with Alex
have not always been easy. The transition is much more
difficult than I expected. As much as we planned for the
changes and envisioned what it would be like after the
birth, it has been very difficult at times. Its not
that we had unrealistic expectations or that what we
envisioned was wrong. The transition is a fundamental
transition. Everything is changed. I think that is hard
to plan for, its really the experience and living
day to day that is different. There have been hard
moments when Alex wouldnt stop crying and neither
Julie nor I could figure out why. Was he teething
already, or is he hurt, or is he just crying? (Believe
me, when he can talk, he has some explaining to do!!)
Alex makes things that used to be routine much more
difficult. Things like making dinner, reading a book,
going to a movie now have to be planned for or we just
dont do them for the moment.
You know, I can also say right along
with the hard moments, that in the last three months and
almost everyday in the last month, there are times when
Im playing with Alex that I am truly happy - the
kind of happiness that comes straight out of your soul.
Not like Im happy because I got a new car or shirt,
Im happy because Im alive. So in the midst of
a fundamental transition where Im questioning every
aspect of my life, I look down at Alexs face and he
looks me right back in the eyes and smiles. We are all
very happy.
D.
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